Just do it

I have a dear, younger relative who seems to be suffering from a fear of failure. He is old enough that he needs to be making some decisions on his own, but seems to be hesitant. He doesn’t even want to move out of the house of his parents — and they are actually pretty ready for him to go. When I talk to his mom, or my mom, I keep hearing, he just needs to do it, or something similar, but no one seems to be working with him to figure out how. Well, I do think his parents are working with him to the extent that he is in counseling. But does that counseling actually get practical about how to face a fear of failure?

I actually do have an idea to offer. One of the things that paralyzes so many is that they are overwhelmed by the hugeness of their goals. If you can’t see past this big thing in your way, how can you know what to do next? So my solution comes directly from the whole idea of project planning and GTD. Don’t think about the ultimate goal as one big thing. Instead, sit down and break it down into many small steps. And then do just that One Next Action. Small successes can build into big successes, but you have to know what the next step is.

Once you know what your next action is, then just do it is an answer. But until then, it is useless advice.

priorities of crafting

I have too many items in progress: it is making it hard to choose what to focus on next.

  • Finishing up the weaving in of ends for Lochinvar
  • blackwork piece
  • winding the warp for the next mini-project
  • bamboo socks for summer
  • knitting for the felted fabric
  • sewing stuff
  • quilting stuff
  • prepping for the next embroidery project (mixture of crossstitch and blackwork)
  • moving the current socks into the bag

And that’s just the fiber crafting stuff. Other things needs to get done as well:

  • make at least three separate phone calls
  • grind grain (a secondary thing)
  • cook for this week’s meals
  • ginger beer recipe: find and make?
  • use whey
  • vacuum
  • paint BA1 ceiling
  • wash some clothes
  • gardening stuff
  • taxes

Then comes the work stuff. At least I know when that is the focus, but it still needs prioritizing! I definitely need to do a weekly review, but that needs time too.

brainwave

I just had some ideas!

I was actually taking a class on how to use Microsoft Outlook for work, and I had a sudden idea on how to use it for personal life. (This just goes to show that we have no separate lives, just one life with different aspects.) One thing I’ve never been quite sure how to handle is the repeating tasks of the household. I did not want to clutter up my regular task list with that kind of thing, but I didn’t see any other appropriate place to put it. But the class was talking about using multiple calendars in Outlook, and I suddenly saw that I could use a secondary calendar in Outlook to schedule those items as recurring events, using the note field to record actual times done and not done — I’m under no illusion that I will always do them on schedule — and that calendar will neither clutter up my ongoing appointments nor will it overwhelm my task list.

A perfect solution? No, but then there isn’t one.

Other idea? I have been frustrated by the mishmash of items that I use for my desk space and the things (books, papers, etc.) that still end up on the floor. The mishmash is not doing the job, but what would? I suddenly realized that I need a general desk/shelving unit, but not a real, extended desk, just a big shelving unit with a longer midsection where I could put my laptop and monitor. I would need a big one, but not some of the really large monsters that are available out there, since my LR area is not that large and I would not want to overpower my space. And bookshelves wouldn’t work, since they wouldn’t be deep enough to handle some of the paraphernalia. But if I could get this right, I would have lots of shelving space for the computer and its paraphernalia, all the things currently on my end table, and some other things that currently live on the floor. I might even be able to get rid of the end table — or at least replace it with a smaller one. This would open up my space nicely, I think, and provide the appropriate storage.

The problem? Well, money and actually finding the thing. I’ve been doing a little online looking, and I’m not finding what I want. And a cheap version from ikea or the container store is NOT going to work; I am endlessly tired of cheap furniture. It makes me feel like I’m still in college, and that boat has floated. Plus I really don’t like the veneer over MDF or its variants; it shows wear and tear a little too quickly. I want real, solid wood that will last.

Sigh.

Patience and persistence will get it done, but I’m sometimes tired of waiting.

Thoughts on GTD

I thought I’d put these in a blog post, since they weren’t getting any attention from me buried in a document on my phone. They came out of my first reading of this book several years ago. I think I need to read it again.

Getting things done / David Allen
recommendations from Book Nook on organizedhome.com

-does workflow diagram apply to weekly review only? Or anything that comes along?

-Actually, REAL listmaker wants:
1. Someday/maybe lists
2. Next action lists
Waiting for
@computer
@home
@work
@phone
@errands
@shopping (variety of shops)
3. Master projects list
4. Individual project lists that are big enough to require them (e.g., Remodel Project, that needs project lists for individual projects)

*Where do you put recurring tasks that are NOT dated?
-Trash obviously does not require a list
-Reference material: some may be needed in planner for ready reference
-In his reference filing, he did not explain where to put stuff you want to read and throw away?

Regularly revamp project and s/m lists.